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Surviving the fourth trimester is all about expectations and knowing that the lack of sleep and newborn worries don’t last forever, even though it may feel like it!
What do experienced moms wish they had known before having a baby? You’d be surprised what no one tells a new mom for fear of scaring her or causing her to panic.
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In the list below are over 50 baby tips and tricks for staying sane with a newborn in those first few weeks as well as the real things that moms wish they had known before their baby was born!
If you are still in the prep stage of pregnancy, make sure to check out my list of free baby stuff for new and expecting moms before you head to the hospital!
General Baby Tips And Tricks From Experienced Moms
Don’t expect anything. No two babies are alike
If you plan on having more than one child, don’t buy pink or blue equipment but rather gender neutral.
Best advice is don’t stress. Just go with the flow. Babies can sense stress. The more laid back you are the more “go with the flow” your babe will be.
If you can’t make it to a prenatal class, you can take one online for free. This FREE course is taught by a labour and delivery nurse and is packed with useful tips and tricks for you and baby!
Do not go crazy on baby products. I had a bunch of stuff ready for when he was born and never used most of it. Then the things I needed I didn’t have.
Female babies can bleed from the vagina a few days after birth for up to 7 days and they can leak milk from their breast.
For boys, make sure you point the penis downward when you fold the diaper over or he will pee out the top of the diaper every time! Wet onesies!!
Tips For Labour, Delivery & Your Hospital Stay
Labour as long as possible at home if you’re not keen on medical interventions
When you pee, lean forward. No one told me how much it burns right after giving birth
When you’re pushing… the moment you’re saying (or screaming) “I can’t do it!!!” You are SO close to meeting your baby. Have your partner remind you of this. It’s always when you feel the most excruciating that something amazing is about to happen.
Don’t go in with a birth plan because usually that never works out. The best plan to have is just to have baby out and safe.
Tips For The First Few Days At Home
There is a fourth trimester. It’s a time for baby and YOU to get used to your new World.
In-laws and family are not entitled to grab, hold, even see your baby until YOU are ready.
Don’t be afraid to tell people off. Babies are cute and for some reason people like touching baby cheeks or hands. Mostly strangers. Don’t be afraid to say NO
Feed on demand, sleep in demand and go with the flow.
Prep for the first few weeks by stocking your freezer with these meals for new moms
Don’t have any pre-conceived notions on how things will go when you get home because that won’t happen—let baby dictate and go with the flow.
If you have a main floor bathroom… get yourself a garbage can WITH A LID ( a swinging one is perfect!). When you have people over, you don’t want them seeing your giant size pads in the garbage when they use the restroom.
I used a pack and play on the main floor with some diapers, wipes and outfits ready so I’d have less running up and down the stairs during the first few days.
Tips for Breastfeeding with a Newborn
ALWAYS remember that FED is best, don’t worry about the insanity of breast vs. Formula debate!
The nurse might help you massage your boobs at the hospital to get your milk flowing.
Breastfeeding is hard work. Latching, milk supply, engorged breasts, bleeding nipples. I wish I had been told in advance so I wasn’t surprised. The first few weeks are so tough but also so magical.
If you need to pump, here are 12 Breast Pumping Tips For More Milk
Cold cabbage leaves will help your breasts feel better when you get engorged.
If you’re breastfeeding, feed on demand and trust yourself and your baby. The half hour every 2-3 hrs thing doesn’t usually happen.
Breastfeeding is incredibly emotional even if you’re not an emotional person because of the hormones released during a feeding.
If you are breastfeeding the doctors and nurses will tell you it’s not supposed to hurt, but it will for a week or two because of the frequency of nursing!
Book in to see a lactation consultant to help if you are breastfeeding.
If you are worried about breastfeeding try to go for a class before you give birth.
Nursing in the middle of the night when everyone is sleeping can be very lonely.
New Mom Self Care Advice
I wish someone had told me that I might not feel like me. I spent weeks just trying to “feel normal”, if that makes sense. When I asked my sister when things would go back to normal, she said “They won’t; this is a new normal.” I don’t know why I hadn’t thought about that, but I didn’t and it was a shock to the system.
Be kind to yourself.
I wish I had been more insistent on postpartum time being private.
Get yourself a Postpartum Survival Kit before you have your baby. Stock it with everything you need for those first few weeks.
The baby blues are REAL. They appear around days 5-7. All your hormones are changing. I cried for 3 days straight. Having the support of your loved ones really helps.
I used the disposable underwear after delivering my babies.
You will bleed for weeks. I didn’t realize that.. have lots of big pads ready.
My feet hardly were swollen my pregnancy, and the night after giving birth I almost had a heart attack because no one told me that your feet can swell after. It’ll be worse if you receive IV fluids. Compression stockings helped me.
It’s totally normal to feel completely emotional. After my second baby everything made me cry.
Make aloe freezer pads! Get the recipe here.
Crying is normal, especially when your milk comes in!
I didn’t have any visitors for babies 2 and 3 and it helped immensely. With baby number 1, we had visitors like a rotating door and it was a circus. I couldn’t get skin to skin, I couldn’t rest.
I made my hubby buy me a rubber doughnut from the drug store so I could sit in an Epson salt bath every night.
Newborn Sleeping Tips
Don’t expect your baby to want to sleep or be content sleeping independently right off the bat.
Babies crave human contact and thrive from skin to skin touch. It helps them acclimate to this big scary world. Be patient with baby as they are just trying to figure things out.
How To Survive Newborn Sleep Deprivation
Babies are normally calm their first night. Sleep as much as you can. The next night, and for the next few months you will be exhausted.
No one really told me just how exhausting the first few weeks/months really were.
Prepare yourself for little sleep and do sleep when baby sleeps. You will be tempted to do all the million things on your to do list but this is a special time and it will pass, so take it easy and do try to sleep whenever you can because the exhaustion is real.
Babies have their days and nights mixed up for a number of weeks at the beginning – sleep/nap during the day!
Put. Your. Phone. Down. If someone says- go and sleep. GO TO SLEEP. I spent SO much time on my phone at opportunities when I should have been sleeping.
Tips For Calming A Crying Baby
Out of all the baby tips and tricks I learned, this was the best! Watch this video on the magic baby hold, practise it on a doll before your baby is born! It is great for soothing a crying baby.
The sound of running water can calm the baby along with knee bends while holding the baby. We expanded on this and found a CD that played water sounds to play while they were sleeping. Worked miracles.
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Newborn tips for dads
Make sure your partner has TONS of snuggle time with baby (this will help in the long run for all of you) they’ll feel completely comfortable with baby- you’ll get ‘you’ time to shower and baby will be content with your partner.
Have a pre-baby arriving discussion with your partner. Who will do what and when. (relationships fall apart when a baby arrives because each partner expects things from the other but never voices those expectations)
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